Find out early if there are reasons that “making it work” will be fraught. Select a few of these questions rather than attempt to ask them all on the same first date! For example, if one person likes to take very long trips and the other person has a more standard two weeks vacation time. If asking this question leads to five solid minutes of them complaining you'll know the person sees the glass as half empty. Why: When you enter a relationship with someone you’re also entering a relationship with their friends. Why: If one of you doesn't like pets and the other has 3 dogs, that's likely to be a problem.
Also, if anything out of the ordinary has happened that might be affecting your date’s mood, it’s good to factor this in. Also, it’s nice to give your date an opportunity to answer a question that isn't directly about them.
There aren’t hard and fast rules about what’s a good vs. Research has shown that the most effective communication style in relationships is a flexible one. Why: This is primarily relevant if you're either an extreme night or an extreme morning person.
The examples below are intended to stimulate your own ideas rather than as rules. Why: Is the person about to make any major life changes e.g., leave their 0K/year job to go back to school? Do they see it as a job, a vocation, or are they primarily motivated by climbing the career ladder?
Relationships can reach a point when suddenly you realize you have nothing to talk about. You'll have some light-hearted fun, and may even get to know things about him you never knew (or wish you never knew). Well, that list should easily help you get through at least a few evenings of nothing-to-do-ness.
The best thing you can do is use this absence of interesting conversation to ask some totally random but fun questions to your boyfriend.
Alice's Twitter @Dr Alice Boyes photo credits: Pink Sherbet Photography, Www.Biggest clue of all: The salad course is punctuated by strained silence and forced small talk. Before we get to those, let’s review a few general guidelines for dating discourse: Listen as much or more than you talk. The two pick at their dinner salads, staring down at the leafy mound before them. Finally, one of them tries to grease the wheels of conversation. Some people consider themselves skilled communicators because they can talk endlessly. Conversations are one of the most important factors that make a relationship work.It is a way of getting to know one another which helps in strengthening the love and respect people have for each other.First date jitters and don’t know what to talk about?